O.k. after today's Dr. appointment I was left shaking and astonished at the closed mindedness of the new Dr. Well, actually he is no longer new because I am not going back. I think I'll just complete Dh's SA through his office and that's it. I already called Dr. Hilgers office and said DON'T fax my file to him... All I wanted from this Dr. was diagnostic blood work for an immune evaluation.
This is what happened. First, we talked about my history: endo removel, two lap.s, what drugs I've taken, etc. He first said no he won't do any blood work. (What????) Also, my eggs are getting older...that I shouldn't waist anymore years ttc go straight to IUI and then a more aggresive approach of IVF. Also, what Dr. Hilgers did for me the month I conceived had nothing to do with me conceiving (this couldn't have been farther from the truth).
After all this I actually worked up the nerve to give him the information I photocopied and highlighted (thank you God) . I told that I know he is a very intelligent and well educated Dr. so can I get your opinion of this treatment for a immune evaluation...
The Dr. took the papers and started flipping through the pages and said I bet I know who wrote this...oh, yes I am right. Dr. Beers. This guy is I won't say nothing short of quackery but pretty close. He is in this line of treatment for the money and has nothing to base the information on.
I was completely aghast that what the Dr. just said completely reflected himself. After all there are more treatments out there besides IUI and IVF. To make matters worse (TMI ahead) I had to tell him that for Dh's SA we don't believe in masturbation. He just about gave me the blankest look possible... Well, by the end I could tell he couldn't wait to have me out of his office. And I felt the same way. So I am not going back.
It is so disappointing to see how many RE's are only into IUI and IVF. There has to be a reason Dh and I are not conceiving. Why couldn't this Dr. just help me find and treat this reason. UGH!
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Cycle update: I couldn't resist and took a pregnancy test today (the last one in the box). No surprise BFN! I guess I convinced myself that the spotting I saw on P+3 was implantation spotting and now on P+5 maybe it would show on a pregnancy test. CRAZY thinking in this 2WW I know. It dosen't hurt to hope.
Oh this reminds me. I forgot to mention that the link to my blogspot is HopeMassett. This is the name of our baby we lost. My husband picked it out because he said that is what we need, Hope. That thought brings me a lot of comfort :)
Time to go cook a very late dinner....
Many prayers!
I.hate.him.
ReplyDeleteI am so in a mood right now, I would love to just make an appointment, and talk to these money grubbing doctors.
I sometimes wish I didn't know so much! No, Sew is not hormonally stable today! ;)
I am trying to find out how old you are but you aren't old even if you were 36+, come on your eggs aren't old. They think we are stupid!? Not all your patients will sell their souls to have a baby DOC!
I mean just because you are a doctor and did a little schooling that doesn't make you smart. I graduated high school and I think I might have more of a clue then these stupid doctors. I wish I had our old BCBS insurance that paid for all my appointments because now that I am unemployed I would make appoints with all of them.
Especially on those days, like today, where I am ready for a fight. ;) I want to edcuate them about the woman's menstraul cycle, Sew style! :)
Sorry, I know you are new to blogging world but some days are better for me then others! hahahaha
My napro doctor is doing a study on his IF patients and 95% of them are coming back with a mutation of the MTHFR. Blood clotting disorder. So since I came back negative for all the blood clotting disorders, they tested my DH. He had two mutations of it. So now they treat me with high doses of folic, B6 & B12 vitamins. With baby asprin post peak through period.
I am sorry I didn't read this post yesterday! I was cleaning my house! :) I must have sensed I was going to crash and burn soon. :)
Oh and one more thing! Dr. Pill Mentality!
ReplyDeleteNice RE. Well, no, not really. A real SOB, actually, ready to start you on the assembly line of IUI and IVF. Sorry you had to go through that.
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